Things To Do Your Partner Is Cheating On You

There comes a time in some relationships where suspicions arise, and one partner begins to feel that maybe, just maybe they are being cheated on.

Why are you suspicious?

The very first phase is to sit yourself down and ask what the reasons for your suspicions are. What makes you think your partner is cheating on you?

This could be the difference between overreacting and nipping potential affairs in the bud. It is always best if you assess the situation from all possible angles instead of acting r@shly.

Talk to your partner

At some point in all this suspicion build-up, you will have to confront your partner and have a conversation about all the things you are worried about.

If it’s giving you reasons to suspect that you’re being cheated on, then you better discuss it. That late arrival, the sneaky phone colleague whose name always comes up in their speech and all that, you need to ask questions, talk about how uncomfortable all these make you.

Don’t accuse till you have evidence

You do not want to accuse your partner until you have evidence to back those claims. Coming on too strongly with accusations will only get you a denial, and if it’s true they’re cheating, they’ll become more careful, guarded and you may never catch them anymore.

Who do you speak to?

If you do have genuine reasons to suspect cheating on your partner’s part – they quietly and regularly receive phone calls at odd times, they’ve become more protective of mobile devices, a colleague’s name uncomfortably keeps popping up in their talks, etc – then the next thing you may want to consider is talking to someone. But who exactly are you supposed to speak to?

Note that you do not have to tell anyone. But if you feel you cannot handle it alone then it’s cool to confide in someone, so far the person can assess the situation from a dispassionate point of view.

Your temperamental friend who has a colourful track record of ill-judgements and rashn*ss is probably not the person to talk to here. Counsellors, trusted friends, and older people who can keep secrets and have proven wise at previous times are options to consider.

Stick or twist?

What if it turns out that your partner is actually cheating on you, what would you do? Stick with them or twist?

Would you break up without a chance for redemption or you may try to give them another chance depending on the circumstances surrounding the affair?

You will need to consider this early too, so your mind is made up on what step you are going to take if your suspicions become confirmed.